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NEWSLETTER #164                                                                                           DECEMBER 2017

“LOVE IS.....”


 

Classmates,

Before we get into the December Newsletter, I have some very sad information to send to you. Tom Galbraith has passed away.  Tom’s beloved wife, Stanna, has put some thoughts and memories together for us, so we will know more about Tom, from the person that shared a great life with him.

The following will be placed in the “With Sympathy - Rest In Peace Notification” and the “In Memory of section” of the Keep Your Fork...’64.

“Dear Friends,

I am writing with some sad news from Colorado.  Tom died at home on October 24; cause of death was a glioblastoma. This brain tumor was diagnosed in late June as Stage IV brain cancer. We visited a brain surgeon in Denver shortly after the diagnosis. The surgeon suggested that with treatment (3 months of surgery, radiation, and chemo) Tom’s life expectancy could be 8 to 9 months.  But because of the location of Tom’s tumor, surgery risked damaging all movement on Tom’s right side, his ability to speak, and his sense of balance.  Without treatment, Tom's life expectancy was 2-4 months. Tom decided that the risks of treatment were great and the benefits small, so he declined treatment and we came home and registered with hospice.
  
Tom lived 3+ months of mostly normal life at home.  He finished 2 solar projects for his niece and nephew, and another electrical wiring project.  He went on several multi-day backpacking trips in the San Juans with friends, and some day hikes as well.  Family and friends from all over the country came to see Tom.  Over the months he gradually became weaker.  He was only seriously ill for his last 10 days, and he was unconscious for the last 7 of those days. Tom said he never had any pain.  He lived 4 months and 3 days after his diagnosis. Tom's departure was peaceful.

Tom’s obituary was in the Durango Herald our local newspaper.  [Link provided.]

Tom kept a blog for a number of years. At the top of his blog he asked, “How many summers do you have left?”  I have updated the blog with a few photos from Tom’s last summer, and you can read about our past adventures on the blog as well:   
http://www.tgsgblog.com

Thank you for being part of Tom’s and my life —  with love, Stanna
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Thank You Stanna. If there is anything the Aragon Class of 1964 can do or assist you with, please contact me.  Stay strong and remember we are here for you.  “Our Thoughts and Prayers are with you - we will never forget - Aragon ‘64.”


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Classmates,

I hope I don’t forget any Holiday Celebrations: Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Feliz Navidad, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Dun Che Lao Ren and Happy Festivus for the rest. I want to wish you all the very best during your respective Holiday Celebrations... be safe, enjoy your holiday time with family and friends.

December is usually a fairly romantic, happy, family and friends get together time.  So, with that being said and with all the sadness happening between August and November, I decided to go off in another direction for my note to the Classmates for the December Newsletter.

First, let’s put a full title to our December Newsletter: “LOVE IS... WHAT YOU MAKE IT!”

LOVE IS: the strongest feeling known, an all-encompassing passion, an extreme strength and an overwhelming excitement.

LOVE IS: trying not to hurt the other person, trying not to change the other person, trying not to dominate the other person, and trying not to deceive the other person.

LOVE IS: understanding each other, listening to each other, supporting each other and having fun with each other.

LOVE IS: not an excuse to stop growing, not an excuse to stop making yourself better, and not an excuse to stop making yourself better and not an excuse to take the other person for granted.

LOVE IS: being completely honest with each other, finding dreams to share, working towards common goals and sharing responsibilities equally.

LOVE IS: is not a feeling to be taken lightly, it is a feeling to be cherished, nurtured and cared for and the reason for life.

“EVERYONE IN THE WORLD WANTS TO LOVE AND BE LOVED” -                                         Susan Polis Schutz


I know, on a personal note, that I, like many of you, have now been married or lived with a partner for many, many years and not all of those years have been “shared with marital/partner bliss.”  I know I will be looking over the above “LOVE IS...” more during this December, (good feeling month), and continue through the year 2018.  During my time in the military there was a statement that was said numerous times, each and every day: “be all you can be!”  I am still trying to improve on that motto every day, no matter what prefix goes with Graham, i.e. Bob, Teammate, Colonel, Teacher, Coach, Airborne, Ranger, Son, Friend, Classmate, Father, Husband, Grandfather, etc.,  I want to be better every day that I have left on this earth.

But... I would be remiss if I didn’t discuss the “one big item” that gets in the way of everyone when they discuss the above “Love Is...”

“ANGER MANAGEMENT...IS:”  How to tame your temper, keeping your temper in check can be challenging.  Here are a few Anger Management tips for you to think about, before you get into WWIII and all kinds of terms flow from your mouth, without any thought given, before you move into attack mode!  In any Argument, once the “hurting words” come out, there is no taking them back... THINK BEFORE YOU SPEW!

One or more of the following may assist you in being that “better person” and keeping that LOVE we all want close to your heart and away from a “Foul Mouth.”

1. Take a time-out: Counting to 10 isn’t just for kids.  Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10... slowing down can help defuse your temper.  If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.

2. Once you are calm, express your anger: As soon as you are thinking clearly, express your frustration in and assertive, but non confrontational way.  State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

3. Get some exercise: Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you are about to erupt.  If you feel your anger escalating, go on a brisk walk or run or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities.  Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.

4. Think before you speak: In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret.  Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything --- and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

5. Identify possible solutions: Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand.  Does your child’s messy room drive you crazy?  Close the door.  Is your partner late for dinner every night?  Schedule meals later in the evening --- or agree to eat on your own a few times a week.  Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything, and might only make it worse.

6. Stick with “I” statements: To avoid criticizing or placing blame --- which might only increase tension --- use “I” statements to describe the problem.  Be respectful and specific.  For example say, “I am upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes,” instead of  “You never do any housework.”

7. Don’t hold a grudge: Forgiveness is a powerful tool.  If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.  But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation.  It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.

8. Use humor to release tension: Lightening up can help diffuse tension.  Don’t use sarcasm  --- it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

9. Practice relaxation skills: When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work.  Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, “Take it easy.”  You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses --- whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

10. Know when to seek help: Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times.  Consider seeking help for anger issues if “your anger seems out of control,” “causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.”  You might explore local anger management classes or anger management counseling, with professional help, you can:

• Learn what anger is
• Identify what triggers your anger
• Recognize signs that you’re becoming angry
• Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way
• Explore underlying feelings, such as sadness or depression

Finally, as we all know, you just can’t “talk the talk” you also need to “walk the walk.”  So, with all that being said, I need to excuse myself and get “walking.”

Just a reminder, so that everyone can enjoy their Holiday Season...Bonita and I are going to keep December’s and January’s Newsletter shorter.  Shorter in quantity, but will continue to match the high level of quality you expect and what we try to attain each and every month.

                                           Hooah, Hugs & “LOVE IS...?” - Bob

 

• The Website For The “Fork” Home Page Remains:
                    
http://www.rizon.biz/Aragon/AragonHomePage.htm  
If that doesn’t work for you, just contact me at my e-mail address: ddlvr55@gmail.com or phone (702) 656-1696 .

• The “Connections and Reconnections” (C/R) Section: - Connected or Reconnected with a Classmate or just want to contact a Classmate, but don’t have any contact information?  Let me know (see above). This still continues to grow - over 30 looking for Classmate information during November!

• “Who Said That - Movie Quote Addition” (WST - MQA): - this site is doing GREAT! Many of you are continuing to send in the correct answers; just a little late. The first week of a new month is the time to strike...get your answer(s) to me - ASAP! We had #11 Classmates challenging to be first last month.

               • November’s Quote:
                        “EXCUSE ME, IS THAT YOUR NOSE,
                          OR DID A BUS PARK ON YOUR FACE?”

               •  November’s Answer:
                        The movie was “ROXANNE” &
                        the actor is “STEVE MARTIN”

               • The Winner is:    GARY ROCKLAGE!
                         CONGRATULATIONS GARY!
                         SATURDAY, 4 NOVEMBER, 5:14 PM, 2017 - Time in.

*We started the “semi-annual contest “ with the June Newsletter and it will be complete with the December 2017 Newsletter. Now is the time for you to jump in and claim the winning prize, for 2017!

1. William (Bill) Stevens  - WON the first - JUNE
2. Renee’ (Leroy) Otte      - WON the second - JULY
3. William (Bill) Stevens - WON the third - AUGUST
4. Gary Rocklage              - WON the fourth - SEPTEMBER
5. Gary Rocklage              - WON the fifth - OCTOBER
6. Gary Rocklage              - WON the sixth - NOVEMBER
7. ????????????                 - WHO WILL WIN the seventh - DECEMBER
 
               • December’s Quote*:
                       “Igor, would you give me a hand with the bags?
              Certainly. You take the blonde and I’ll take the one in the turban.”

                  *Title of Movie and Actor(s) Name(s) are required.

               • The Winner(s) for the year will be announced in January 2018. If Bill Stevens wins, that will give him and Gary Rocklage each “THREE WINS;” If that happens each will receive the “AWARD,” FOR 2017. GOOD LUCK BILL & GARY. 

• “The Bucket List (B/L) Challenge:” -  The B/L - needs to stay alive & healthy...”As the Bucket List Goes, So We Go.”

OK, let’s get to the articles for December, that your Classmates, Family and Friends sent into the “FORK.”

                                              “LOVE IS...?” - 

                                                H. H. & L, Bob

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Soldiers Deck Of Cards”  #1   Contributed by Ted Dumke
[An oldie, but a great one for this time of year]  

Top 10 Songs, That Will Take You Back”  #2  Contributed by Maggie (Tubia) Horwitz   [Ah, the memories - I really like #4 & #1]

“Jeanne Roberts - Strikes Twice”    1st     2nd    #3    Contributed by Charlene (Wiper) Swenson   [Time for smiles and laughs – enjoy!]


Our Father”   #4  Contributed by Bob & Peggy Graham  [Check out this video!]

“How about Some Magic?”  #5    Contributed by Judy (Fondren) Ahlvin
[Everyone likes magic - how about this?]
  
Marines and the NFL”    #6  Contributed by Kathy (Lanstyak) Sheffield
[Thank you - to all in uniform! Semper Fi & Oorah Marine!]

 

“Slice Of Life - Gender Perspectives”  #7  
Contributed by Stevie Graham & Scott 
[This is just a joke, sense of humor – please.]

Female:
Before I lay me down to sleep, I pray for a man who’s not a creep.  One who’s handsome, smart and strong, one who loves to listen long.  One who thinks before he speaks, one who calls, not wait for weeks.  Oh send me a king to make me a queen, a man who loves to cook and clean.

Male:
I pray for a deaf-mute gymnast nymphomaniac with big boobs, who owns a bar on a golf course, and loves to send me out to go fishing and drinking. This doesn’t rhyme and I don’t give a s**t.


My Buddy, My Pal, A Part Of Me - Jake”  #8    Contributed by the Graham Family   [A great life that has crossed over the Rainbow Bridge.  Love and miss you, Jake!]

“The 10 Canine Commandments, According To Jake

1. “MY LIFE IS LIKELY TO LAST 10 TO 15 YEARS” - Any separation from you will be painful to me.
 
2. ‘WHAT YOU WANT FROM ME” - Give me time to understand.

3. “IT’S CRITICAL TO MY WELL BEING” - Place your trust in me.

4. “DON’T LOCK ME UP FOR PUNISHMENT. YOU HAVE YOUR WORK, YOUR ENTERTAINMENT, AND YOUR FRIENDS. I ONLY HAVE YOU.” - Don’t be angry with me.

5. “EVEN IF I DON’T UNDERSTAND YOURS WORDS. I UNDERSTAND YOUR VOICE  WHEN IT’S SPEAKING TO ME.” - Talk to me sometimes.

6. “BE AWARE THAT HOWEVER YOU TREAT ME.” - I’ll never forget it.

7. “REMEMBER BEFORE YOU HIT ME; I HAVE TEETH THAT COULD EASILY CRUSH THE BONES OF YOUR HAND,” but I choose not to bite you.

8. “BEFORE YOU SCOLD ME FOR BEING UNCOOPERATIVE, OBSTINATE OR LAZY, PERHAPS I’M NOT GETTING THE RIGHT FOOD, OR I’VE BEEN OUT IN THE SUN TOO LONG, OR MY HEART IS GETTING OLD AND WEAK.” - Ask yourself if something might be bothering me.
 
9. “YOU TO WILL GROW OLD.” - Take care of me when I get old.

10. “NEVER SAY I CAN’T BEAR TO WATCH IT, OR LET IT HAPPEN IN MY ABSENCE. EVERY THING IS EASIER FOR ME IF YOU ARE THERE.” - Go with me on difficult journeys.

“REMEMBER THAT I LOVE YOU.” “WE WILL BOTH BE YOUNG, FREE OF ACHES, PAINS AND BE  HEALTHY...YOU WILL THROW MY BALL AND I WILL GET IT AND RETURN IT TO YOU, SO WE CAN RUN AND PLAY CATCH FOR ETERNITY.” - I will always be with you in mind, body, heart and spirit; until we meet again at the rainbow bridge.

                                             “I LOVE YOU, JAKE”

God Bless America”        #9   Contributed by Ted Dumke
(John Wayne 1970 Variety Show, missing in America now?)

Sir Nicholas Winton - Saving The Children”    #10   Contributed by Maggie (Tubia) Horwitz    [A real hero for humanity!]


Here’s To Our Heroes”   #11   Contributed by Linda (Wanke) Rapp   [Be proud, be very proud - it feels good, but it still hurts!]

Greatest Trick Plays In Football History”   #12   Contributed by Bruce Ahlvin  [It is football season.  I thought you might like some trick plays of the past?]

“Just a Young Cowboy, Showing Respect”    #13  Contributed by Gavin Graham   (I like him, I’m seven years old and I say the Pledge of  Allegiance with my Grandpa Bob!)


 

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DON’T FORGET:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AND ANNIVERSARY TO ALL “DECEMBER” CLASSMATES!

DECEMBER 2017 - “WRITE A FRIEND MONTH” - DATES TO REMEMBER:

1. Eat a Red Apple Day.
2. National Fritters Day.
3. National Roof Over Your Head Day.
4. Santa's’ List Day.
5. Bathtub Party Day.
6.  St. Nicholas Day.
7.  Pearl Harbor Day.
8.  Take it in the Ear Day. 
9.  National Pastry Day.
10. Human Rights Day.
11. National Noodle Ring Day.
12. Chanukah.
13. Violin Day.
14. Roast Chestnuts Day.
15. Bill Of Rights Day.
16. National Chocolate Covered Anything Day.
17. National Maple Syrup Day.
18. Bake Cookies Day.
19. Look For An Evergreen Day.
20. Go Caroling Day.
21. Forefather’s Day.
22. National Date Nut Bread Day.
23. Roots Day and Festivus Day.
24. National Egg Nog Day.
25. Christmas Day.
26. Boxing Day.
27. National Fruitcake Day.
28. Card Playing Day.
29. Pepper Pot Day.
30. Bacon Day.
31. New Year’s Eve.
 

Classmates, you really did it again for December.  One more time: your Family, Friends and Classmates came through, in a big way. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!  Have a GREAT December and we will get back together, after the New Year - JANUARY 2018.  Our Thoughts & Prayers will be with Tom & Stanna’s Family.

“LOVE IS...WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT,”

                                                     H. H. & L. - Bob
 

 

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